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Happy Chinese New Year – The Year of the Dog

Happy Chinese New Year – The Year of the Dog

Happy Chinese New Year

The Year of the Dog…

The Peninsula Woman

Mar – April 2006

 

“A boy can learn

a lot from dog: 

obedience, loyalty 

and the importance

of turning around

three times 

before lying down.”

~Robert Benchley

January 29, 2006 – February 17, 2007 Each year we celebrate an animal associated with the Chinese Astrological calendar.  This calendar was originated in 2637 B.C. by Emperor Huang Ti.  The ancient legend states that Lord Buddha summoned all the animals to come bid him farewell before he departed from the earth. Twelve animals showed up and he named a year for each animal in the order of its arrival. First came the Rat, then the Ox, the Tiger, Rabbit, Dragon, Snake, Horse, Sheep, Monkey, Rooster, Dog and finally the Boar. The animal that was ruling the year that you were born is said to have an influence over your life.  This year is the year of the Dog!

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How to Create Productive Change in The New Year

How to Create Productive Change in The New Year

How to Create

Productive Change

in the New Year

The Peninsula Woman

Jan – Feb 2006

 

We should do every task for its own sake 
as time and place demand 
and not with an eye to the result.
Then each task turns out well, 
and anything we undertake succeeds.

~The I Ching The Book of Changes Tr. Wilhelm

Every year we celebrate a day that carries many hopes and dreams with it.  

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A Simply Spiritual Holiday

A Simply Spiritual Holiday

A Simply

Spiritual Holiday

The Peninsula Women

Nov – Dec 2005

 

 

The ordinary arts we practice 
every day at home are of more importance 
to the soul than their simplicity might suggest.

~Thomas More

I was having coffee the other day with a girlfriend and she asked if I was getting ready for the holidays.  I looked at her and sighed. My reply was hesitant. It is a time of the year I have learned to be neutral about.  We continued to talk about the highs and lows that come with the holidays.  

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How to Get What you Really Need

How to Get What you Really Need

How to Get

What You

Really Need!

The Peninsula Woman

Sept – Oct 2005

 

 It is better to have it and not need it

Then to need it and not have it.

~Gerard Patrick Roeling

We all have needs.  From the moment we are born into this world, each of us need love, guidance and attention.  As children we rely solely on others to help us learn about, understand, and fulfill our needs. Depending on your early childhood environment, your needs were either 1) attended to and fulfilled, 2) fulfilled somewhat, or 3) your needs were not fulfilled at all.  Your childhood experiences, provided a foundation for the way in which you learned to negotiate, accept and finally receive what you needed.

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Lonely Versus Alone

Lonely Versus Alone

Lonely Versus Alone

The Peninsula Woman

Jul – Aug 2005

Language has created

the word loneliness

to express the pain

of being alone,

and the word solitude 

to express the glory

of being alone. 

~ Paul Tillich

 Life holds many obstacles. The two largest obstacles that seem to develop as a woman becomes older is the fear of losing her beauty and the fear of being alone. Lately, I have experienced these issues with many of my older female clients.

Quite frankly, it is disheartening for me to hear that a woman is afraid of losing her beauty.  But it is really hard to hear that she cannot be alone.  But the hardest thing to hear from her is that because of her possible loss of beauty, and her fear of being alone she stays in a relationship that no longer serves her solely because of the fear of being alone. She reiterates that it is because she is losing her beauty and “what man would really want to be with her now?”  Truly, I want to scream.

Honestly, I hear her plea. But actually what I know to be true is that deep down inside of her, what is really important to address and what is really her greatest and deepest fear is being alone.

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Don’t Shoot the Moon

Don’t Shoot the Moon

Don’t Shoot

the Moon!

Peninsula Woman

May – Jun 2005

 

 

As infants we learn how to get our needs met in order to survive.   Later as children we begin to formulate ideas, concepts and feelings about how that will happen in other ways.  As adolescents we try to discern how we will get our deeper needs met as we pull away from our parents.

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