| How to Create Productive Change in the New Year The Peninsula Woman Jan – Feb 2006 |
We should do every task for its own sake
as time and place demand
and not with an eye to the result.
Then each task turns out well,
and anything we undertake succeeds.
~The I Ching The Book of Changes Tr. Wilhelm
Every year we celebrate a day that carries many hopes and dreams with it.
| A Simply Spiritual Holiday The Peninsula Women Nov – Dec 2005
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The ordinary arts we practice
every day at home are of more importance
to the soul than their simplicity might suggest.
~Thomas More
I was having coffee the other day with a girlfriend and she asked if I was getting ready for the holidays. I looked at her and sighed. My reply was hesitant. It is a time of the year I have learned to be neutral about. We continued to talk about the highs and lows that come with the holidays.
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| How to Get What You Really Need! The Peninsula Woman Sept – Oct 2005
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It is better to have it and not need it
Then to need it and not have it.
~Gerard Patrick Roeling
We all have needs. From the moment we are born into this world, each of us need love, guidance and attention. As children we rely solely on others to help us learn about, understand, and fulfill our needs. Depending on your early childhood environment, your needs were either 1) attended to and fulfilled, 2) fulfilled somewhat, or 3) your needs were not fulfilled at all. Your childhood experiences, provided a foundation for the way in which you learned to negotiate, accept and finally receive what you needed.
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| Lonely Versus Alone The Peninsula Woman Jul – Aug 2005 | Language has created the word loneliness to express the pain of being alone, and the word solitude to express the glory of being alone. ~ Paul Tillich |
Life holds many obstacles. The two largest obstacles that seem to develop as a woman becomes older is the fear of losing her beauty and the fear of being alone. Lately, I have experienced these issues with many of my older female clients.
Quite frankly, it is disheartening for me to hear that a woman is afraid of losing her beauty. But it is really hard to hear that she cannot be alone. But the hardest thing to hear from her is that because of her possible loss of beauty, and her fear of being alone she stays in a relationship that no longer serves her solely because of the fear of being alone. She reiterates that it is because she is losing her beauty and “what man would really want to be with her now?” Truly, I want to scream.
Honestly, I hear her plea. But actually what I know to be true is that deep down inside of her, what is really important to address and what is really her greatest and deepest fear is being alone.
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| Don’t Shoot the Moon! Peninsula Woman May – Jun 2005
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As infants we learn how to get our needs met in order to survive. Later as children we begin to formulate ideas, concepts and feelings about how that will happen in other ways. As adolescents we try to discern how we will get our deeper needs met as we pull away from our parents.
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| Following your Dreams Using Astrology The Peninsula Woman Mar – Apr 2005
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When you wish upon a star,
makes no difference who you are
Anything your heart desires will come to you
If your heart is in your dreams,
no request is too extreme
When you wish upon a star as dreamers do
What is a dream? The dictionary describes it as: A wild fancy or hope, a condition or achievement that is longed for, an aspiration, something that is exceptionally gratifying, excellent, or beautiful.
More importantly, what are your dreams? Do you know? The above description suggests that a dream is often something out of reach.
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