Lonely Versus Alone
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Lonely Versus Alone The Peninsula Woman Jul - Aug 2005 |
Language has created the word loneliness to express the pain of being alone, and the word solitude to express the glory of being alone. ~ Paul Tillich |
Life holds many obstacles. The two largest obstacles that seem to develop as a woman becomes older is the fear of losing her beauty and the fear of being alone. Lately, I have experienced these issues with many of my older female clients.
Quite frankly, it is disheartening for me to hear that a woman is afraid of losing her beauty. But it is really hard to hear that she cannot be alone. But the hardest thing to hear from her is that because of her possible loss of beauty, and her fear of being alone she stays in a relationship that no longer serves her solely because of the fear of being alone. She reiterates that it is because she is losing her beauty and “what man would really want to be with her now?” Truly, I want to scream.
Honestly, I hear her plea. But actually what I know to be true is that deep down inside of her, what is really important to address and what is really her greatest and deepest fear is being alone.